Released from the Need to know!
I have been blessed and honored in the last 6 months or so to work more and more in the Chaplaincy role. While my ultimate goal is to be a Pastor, working as a Chaplain has and is developing several attributes that are helping shape my pastoral heart.
One thing that I have found is that I can release myself from the need to know. Let me unpack what I mean a little bit.
1) I need to know you are in pain. Pain, like a tootache, is what sends us to the Dentist. In the spiritual case, it sends you to someone who can care for your soul.
2) Like a Dentist, I dont need all the details. The Dentist does not care if you cracked your filling on a lolipop, an almond, or rocks. It just does not matter. What matters to him is alleviating the pain and helping you restore your mouth to a state of normalcy. As a person in soul care our same goal should be restoration and alleviation as much pain as possible and a return to normalcy.
How often when praying with someone does the specific thing need to be spoken? Are we so faithless as to believe that the Holy Spirit is not working in the life of the saint LONG before they come to us? I have had several instances at work and at church just in the last week where I have told someone whom I know is in distress that I am praying for them. A simple declarative statement. No details needed. I have heard from them that they appreciated knowing I was praying for them and not having to relive the whole darn thing again.
The tricky aspect is to make myself available should someone want to speak more about it. Saying a simple “I’ll pray for you” and walking on by is not appropriate. But lingering for a few seconds is. In that few seconds you will know that praying now with them is good, or they are content to know you are praying for them.
We all work or go to church or school in a world that is gossipy and more then often a little judgemental. If we as the body of Christ would work a little harder at alleviating our need to know the details in the name of “praying specifically” for a person I think we can truly impact each other to a greater degree. Prayer stimulates the activity of the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit knows us intimately down to the sinewy details. We are just to be faithful to the call to pray for one another.
Am I terribly off base here? Please feel free to opine.
